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RELATIONSHIPS. Whether your relationship is casual, serious, or even a friendship, it's important to feel respected, safe, and heard. We like to remember. with whom we can create happy and lasting relationships. This book outlines which astrological signs and elements have a natural affinity with our signs. Relationship – Lesson One: Poor in Spirit. 1. What have you thought previously about the purpose of the Beatitudes? Why do you think they have such a.
It expands and contracts and mellows and deepens. Love is a funny thing. In ancient times, people genuinely considered love a sickness. Parents warned their children against it, and adults quickly arranged marriages before their children were old enough to do something dumb in the name of their emotions. We all know that guy or girl who dropped out of school, sold their car and spent the money to elope on the beaches of Tahiti.
We all also know that that guy or girl ended up sulking back a few years later feeling like a moron, not to mention broke. It generally only lasts for a few years at most. It does for everybody.
True love — that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy — is a choice. That form of love is much harder.
But this form of love is also far more satisfying and meaningful.
And, at the end of the day, it brings true happiness, not just another series of highs. Every day you wake up and decide to love your partner and your life — the good, the bad and the ugly.
Many people never learn how to breach this deep, unconditional love. Many people are instead addicted to the ups and downs of romantic love. They are in it for the feels, so to speak. And when the feels run out, so do they. Many people get into a relationship as a way to compensate for something they lack or hate within themselves. This is a one-way ticket to a toxic relationship because it makes your love conditional — you will love your partner as long as they help you feel better about yourself.
You will give to them as long as they give to you. You will make them happy as long as they make you happy. That is the truth. But you never want to lose respect for your partner. Once you lose respect you will never get it back. As we scanned through the hundreds of responses we received, my assistant and I began to notice an interesting trend. Talk frequently.
Talk openly. Talk about everything, even if it hurts. But we noticed that the thing people with marriages going on 20, 30, or even 40 years talked about most was respect. My sense is that these people, through sheer quantity of experience, have learned that communication, no matter how open, transparent and disciplined, will always break down at some point. Conflicts are ultimately unavoidable, and feelings will always be hurt. You will judge their choices and encroach on their independence.
You will feel the need to hide things from one another for fear of criticism. And this is when the cracks in the edifice begin to appear. Of course, this means showing respect, but that is too superficial. You have to feel it deep within you. I deeply and genuinely respect him for his work ethic, his patience, his creativity, his intelligence, and his core values. From this respect comes everything else — trust, patience, perseverance because sometimes life is really hard and you both just have to persevere.
I want to enable him to have some free time within our insanely busy lives because I respect his choices of how he spends his time and who he spends time with. And, really, what this mutual respect means is that we feel safe sharing our deepest, most intimate selves with each other. You must also respect yourself. Because without that self-respect, you will not feel worthy of the respect afforded by your partner.
You will be unwilling to accept it and you will find ways to undermine it. You will constantly feel the need to compensate and prove yourself worthy of love, which will just backfire.
Respect for your partner and respect for yourself are intertwined. Never talk badly to or about her. You chose her — live up to that choice. Respect goes hand-in-hand with trust. And trust is the lifeblood of any relationship romantic or otherwise. Without trust, there can be no sense of intimacy or comfort. Without trust, your partner will become a liability in your mind, something to be avoided and analyzed, not a protective homebase for your heart and your mind.
We have so many friends who are in marriages that are not working well and they tell me all about what is wrong. I receive hundreds of emails from readers each week asking for life advice. A large percentage of these emails involve their struggling romantic relationships.
A couple years ago, I discovered that I was answering the vast majority of these relationship emails with the exact same response. Then come back and ask again. This response became so common that I actually put it on my contact form on the site because I was so tired of copying and pasting it.
If something bothers you in the relationship, you must be willing to say it. Saying it builds trust and trust builds intimacy. It may hurt, but you still need to do it. No one else can fix your relationship for you. Nor should anyone else. Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
Behind respect, trust was the most commonly mentioned trait for a healthy relationship. But trust goes much deeper than that. If you ended up with cancer tomorrow, would you trust your partner to stick with you and take care of you?
Would you trust your partner to care for your child for a week by themselves? Do you trust them to handle your money or make sound decisions under pressure? Do you trust them to not turn on you or blame you when you make mistakes? These are hard things to do. Trust at the beginning of a relationship is easy.
But the deeper the commitment, the more intertwined your lives become, and the more you will have to trust your partner to act in your interest in your absence. What if she is hiding something herself? The key to fostering and maintaining trust in the relationship is for both partners to be completely transparent and vulnerable:.
Trust is like a china plate. If you drop it and it breaks, you can put it back together with a lot of work and care.
If you drop it and break it a second time, it will split into twice as many pieces and it will require far more time and care to put back together again. But drop and break it enough times, and it will shatter into so many pieces that you will never be able to put it back together again, no matter what you do.
Figure out as individuals what makes you happy as an individual, be happy yourself, then you each bring that to the relationship. You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself for your partner and their wants and needs.
There is some truth to that. Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times. Just read that again. That sounds horrible. A healthy and happy relationship requires two healthy and happy individuals. Keyword here: This is the person you chose. It will only backfire and make you both miserable.
Have the courage to be who you are, and most importantly, let your partner be who they are. Those are the two people who fell in love with each other in the first place. But how does one do this? What do I mean?
Have your own interests, your own friends, your own support network, and your own hobbies. Overlap where you can, but not being identical should give you something to talk about and expose one another to. Among the emails, one of the most popular themes was the importance of creating space and separation from one another. People sung the praises of separate checking accounts, separate credit cards, having different friends and hobbies, taking separate vacations from one another each year this has been a big one in my own relationship.
Some even went so far as to recommend separate bathrooms or even separate bedrooms. Some people are afraid to give their partner freedom and independence. BUT, more importantly, this inability to let our partners be who they are , is a subtle form of disrespect. What does it say for your respect for yourself? Drives me nuts when I see women not let their husbands go out with the guys or are jealous of other women.
We have changed faiths, political parties, numerous hair colors and styles, but we love each other and possibly even more. Our grown kids constantly tell their friends what hopeless romantics we are. And the biggest thing that keeps us strong is not giving a fuck about what anyone else says about our relationship.
I can get on board with that. Among major life changes people told me their marriages went through and survived: Amazingly, these couples survived because their respect for each other allowed them to adapt and allow each person to continue to flourish and grow.
You know who they are today, but you have no idea who this person is going to be in five years, ten years, and so on. You have to be prepared for the unexpected, and truly ask yourself if you admire this person regardless of the superficial or not-so-superficial details, because I promise almost all of them at some point are going to either change or go away.
Much like the body and muscles, it cannot get stronger without stress and challenge. You have to fight. You have to hash things out. Obstacles make the marriage. John Gottman is a hot-shit psychologist and researcher who has spent over 30 years analyzing married couples and looking for keys to why they stick together and why they break up.
Published on Feb 7, Pub Date: Thomas Nelson Great Leaders Understand that their team is only as strong as its weakest link. And Healthy nurtured relationships are key in making your team operate as a well-OilEd machine. In Relationships John Maxwell offers time-tested principles for connecting with people and building positive working relationships within an organization. The unique. Topics include: SlideShare Explore Search You.
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We all need to feel heard, understood, and cared for, and this exercise can help both you and your partner feel this way.
Set a timer for this exercise three to five minutes will usually do the trick and let your partner talk. While they are speaking, your job is to do one thing and one thing only: Do not speak at all until the timer goes off. Simply listen to your partner and soak it all in.
However, while you may not speak during this time, you are free to give your partner non-verbal encouragement or empathy through body language, facial expressions, or meaningful looks. When the timer goes off, switch roles and try the exercise again. To learn more about this exercise, click here. If you and your partner are leading lives jam-packed with activities, events, and obligations, this exercise will be a great way to connect. This exercise provides you and your partner with an opportunity to interact as adults no kids allowed and without distractions no phones, tablets, or laptops allowed.
Schedule a non-negotiable chunk of time 30 minutes is a good default once a week for you and your partner to talk about how you both are doing, your relationship as a couple, any unfinished arguments or grievances, or any needs that are not being met. The answers to these questions should lead you and your partner in a healthy and productive discussion about your selves and your relationship.
Another quick and easy exercise, this exercise can be engaged in anywhere the two of you are together. You only need your words and your imagination! You could have one partner go first and list all five things, or you and your partner could alternate saying one of your five things at a time. When you have both finished sharing your list, you can talk about your items, show each other appreciation, ask follow up questions, or come up with more items together.
This exercise is a fun and engaging way to connect with your partner, learn something new, or reminisce over good shared memories. You can read more about it at this link. There are many more resources out there for couples who wish to try new things and build their connection. A few of the best free worksheets that can help couples enhance their bond are listed and described below.
This worksheet is a great activity for those in a relationship who want to make changes or solve some difficult relationship problems. It keeps the discussion light but reminds the couple of their special connection while helping them learn more about themselves and their partner.
The instructions direct the couple to take turns asking each other a question from each section below or ask them all if they believe they know the answers. Asking and answering these questions can help couples feel closer, learn about each other, and reminisce or dream for the future together. You can find this worksheet here. This worksheet can help you or your client to remember the good qualities in your partner, especially when there are problems or arguments within the relationship.
Sometimes all it takes to get partners working together to solve their problems is a reminder of why they love each other. For each section, the client is instructed to identify at least three things that they love about their partner, treasured memories with their partner, or the ways in which their partner returns their love. To see this worksheet or print it out for yourself or your clients, click here. If you or your client are struggling in a romantic relationship, this is another good worksheet to try.
When a couple is having trouble, simply reminding themselves that they are a team and they have many things in common can be an excellent way to encourage problem-solving.
This worksheet will help the couple remember that they are a team with common goals, common desires, and common traits. Filling in these blanks will encourage a couple to remember the good things in their relationship and feel a sense of shared responsibility and success. Click here to see this worksheet. Like the goal-setting worksheet above, this is not a worksheet in the traditional sense, but it also provides invaluable information about how to effectively work towards conflict resolution in relationships.
For this reason, it is too great a resource not to share. This worksheet describes each rule and provides tips and suggestions for you or your client to follow the next time there is a disagreement, argument, or other sort of conflict that is causing trouble in an important relationship. To read more about these rules for conflict resolution, you can view or download the worksheet here.
The handout encourages the reader to remember not to take his or her partner for granted. Following these suggestions can help couples show their partners appreciation and inject some gratitude into their relationship. Add any special things you can do for your partner that you know they will enjoy. To view, download, or print this list, click here. This piece included a description of couples counseling or couples therapy as it is also known, and introduced several engaging, informative, and helpful exercises for making the most out of a romantic relationship.
No relationship is without an occasional problem, and even the best can benefit from some concerted effort on the part of each partner. Whether you are in a brand new relationship or going on your 50th anniversary, there is still more to learn about your partner and more new and interesting things to do together.
What do you think keeps your relationship happy and healthy?
Have you tried any of these activities or exercises? What do you think is most important in a good romantic relationship? Let us know in the comments! My husband and I hit rock bottom and I went through a rabbit hole looking for good resources to offer guidance. I feel hopeful that him and I can find middle ground to work back to feeling connected. Thank you so much. Thank you for this great information and this is a complete article about couple therapy worksheets activities.
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